tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8540174746455738474.post8084179730184446062..comments2011-08-09T18:00:33.772-07:00Comments on Monkey Dumplings: I have an opinionApril Taylorhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08238041316483024640noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8540174746455738474.post-20469655102163227862010-05-01T10:36:58.563-07:002010-05-01T10:36:58.563-07:00Exellent post...i live in Nashville and you're...Exellent post...i live in Nashville and you're correct about the amazing Vanderbilt International Adoption Clinic. They are simply, well, amazing. <br /><br />Love, just as you said, is some times, just not enough.~Isabelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12437976653688457847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8540174746455738474.post-71795546352521551092010-04-30T10:03:11.361-07:002010-04-30T10:03:11.361-07:00Where have you been? I love your comments, and yo...Where have you been? I love your comments, and your description of yourself. (I too am a screaming liberal.) Stay on the Kaz page so we can all catch up with you.D and Ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03204586932563332648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8540174746455738474.post-56810514750661190192010-04-29T23:44:59.892-07:002010-04-29T23:44:59.892-07:00April,
I just stumbled onto your blog and wholehea...April,<br />I just stumbled onto your blog and wholeheartedly agree with your post. As a single adoptive mom myself I've been through the doubts and concerns too. I have been blessed with an easy going, kind spirited daughter and am considering adopting a second. When I heard about this woman I thought "how could she have handled this so heartlessly." Not how could it happen? How could she not love this child no matter what? Which seems to be most non-adoptive parents response. Like you I'm realistic enough to know that some of these children are so damaged by the lives they've been forced to lead that they need more help than some parents can offer. But the parent doesn't have to and shouldn't be doing it on their own and that was her fault. Like you said, she didn't do her research and she didn't give either one of them a chance by not getting the help that is so readily available. And thinking you can return a child like you can an unwanted gift to WalMart is shameful of her. I still think she was mostly to blame but the way the world romanticise adoption certainly didn't help.<br /><br />Thanks for so articulately expressing what most adoptive parents understand to be the truth.<br /><br />I look forward to learning more about your family through your blog.<br /><br />Blessings to you and yours,<br />Lou Ann & Lexie from Kaz too<br />www.louannsadoption.blogspot.comLou Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07240566827986460210noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8540174746455738474.post-36402318226235872162010-04-28T11:05:15.517-07:002010-04-28T11:05:15.517-07:00Soooooo well said. This should be required readin...Soooooo well said. This should be required reading for anyone contemplating adoption.<br />GaylaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8540174746455738474.post-88373846255305119022010-04-28T04:48:14.344-07:002010-04-28T04:48:14.344-07:00ok, I meant PICS! Pictures! Need more caffeine!ok, I meant PICS! Pictures! Need more caffeine!Melaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14201465976431319324noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8540174746455738474.post-81981238631784213182010-04-28T04:47:24.148-07:002010-04-28T04:47:24.148-07:00I agree with everything you said. Now post some cu...I agree with everything you said. Now post some cute oics wouldja? :)Melaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14201465976431319324noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8540174746455738474.post-33079486046133317992010-04-27T06:09:58.786-07:002010-04-27T06:09:58.786-07:00Liz, you should totally go ahead and publish that ...Liz, you should totally go ahead and publish that book. Not only would it be cathartic for you, but it might help countless other parents who feel lost and alone. I wold also love to hear Lisa's side of the bonding experience. If she ever wants to write down what she remembers, I would love to read it. You two are a great example of a pair of people who had to walk through the pain before you could come out on the other side. <br />Everybody else, thanks for your comments. It's always nice to know people are reading. Sometimes it feels like I am taking to myself, which I do, a lot, but talking to somebody else always feel better. And less crazy;)April Taylorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08238041316483024640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8540174746455738474.post-17013336131439367452010-04-26T21:35:02.927-07:002010-04-26T21:35:02.927-07:00Amen! Perfectly stated and I wish I had written it...Amen! Perfectly stated and I wish I had written it!! :-)Mariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02487340922585988224noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8540174746455738474.post-60357775053456268412010-04-26T20:43:06.643-07:002010-04-26T20:43:06.643-07:00I love your post about this...I agree left and rig...I love your post about this...I agree left and right, back and forth. You have to open your heart to love, to be together, and if you are lucky, you let it in.Catharinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16090227392311190565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8540174746455738474.post-35263175806919238932010-04-26T17:29:33.129-07:002010-04-26T17:29:33.129-07:00Your post is absolutely and completely truthful. ...Your post is absolutely and completely truthful. I have been stewing on this topic for weeks and haven't been able to verbalize my thoughts. Thank you for doing that part for me! <br /><br />Alecia..adoptive momAleciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08845763939546616123noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8540174746455738474.post-66573475013954400282010-04-26T06:22:34.868-07:002010-04-26T06:22:34.868-07:00Oh APRIL!!! You so hit the nail on the head. We ...Oh APRIL!!! You so hit the nail on the head. We are so afraid to tell the truth because we are afraid of what people will think, and we can't admit to ourselves that we are so horrible that we don't love and adore these kids like we "think" we're supposed to. I wrote an entire book about adopting Lisa, complete with the horrible feelings I had towards her and "what have we done to our family" etc. etc. I never did anything with it, because I was too embarrassed that I had these feelings. But now I see that we possibly have done a disservice. By not speaking out, we have perpetuated the myth, and allowed other people to go on to adopt with unrealistic expectations. I think we have a responsibility to tell people about these feelings! I have been in grad school for the past three years, but I think the very next thing I need to do is get that book done and published. The other aspect is that I have sat on it because of how it would affect Lisa to read about the feelings I had. But she's 12 now and very mature for her age, and I know if I have an open discussion with her, she will understand and possibly gain more insight about her own adoption. Thank you so much ... we have so much eye opening to do! Liz BranchAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com